Things got better, then they got the same... with the SO, I'm not sure things will ever be fine. There's an ongoing tension between what I want and what he can give me. Sometimes it lines up and things are good, but maybe all those times require him to stretch. So the minute he cannot keep up the stretch, things start falling apart again. I've tried lowered expectations, and frankly, what I have now are plenty low. What remains true though, is that I cannot leave him. Even if in that potential future, we are both happier.
I think I mentioned it, but in February, we got our new motorcycle. It's a Harley Davidson and it's bloody heavy. It's a pleasure to ride, but it's heavy and I have dropped it 3 times so far. Twice it didn't actually make it to the ground, just got to a stage where I could not pick it up. This last time, I dropped it on the other side, where there is potential for parts to touch the ground, so they did. Each time it has fallen, I have struggled with it, and the next day, the relevant arm and shoulder muscles let me know. This last time, Sunday, I wasn't sure how/why I dropped it. I wasn't sure that I tried hard enough to keep it up. On Monday though, the familiar ache let me know that I had tried.
It's a twisted metaphor, but it's the same with me and this relationship. Every so often I think I am not trying enough and then I feel this pain. The pain of putting myself out there, and I know I tried.
In other news, I got a promotion at work. I was not expecting it, and my boss is not very communicative or expressive. I don't get along very well with her, to be frank, but we manage. But because of this dynamic, I wasn't expecting much so the promotion was certainly very welcome. I am also interviewing for a job (in the same organization) which will take me to Singapore.
I studied in Singapore many years ago, and have visited a couple of times since, so it's a familiar place. It's close to home and so easy to live in, that I'm quite looking forward to that part. The only misgivings I have are that I'm not wedded to a future in this organization, and was looking forward to starting something on my own, taking some time off etc. Though if I remember correctly, working in Singapore is not too stressful. People wrap up at a reasonable hour and have time off. The main challenge is motivation, I'll find it somewhere.
I think I mentioned it, but in February, we got our new motorcycle. It's a Harley Davidson and it's bloody heavy. It's a pleasure to ride, but it's heavy and I have dropped it 3 times so far. Twice it didn't actually make it to the ground, just got to a stage where I could not pick it up. This last time, I dropped it on the other side, where there is potential for parts to touch the ground, so they did. Each time it has fallen, I have struggled with it, and the next day, the relevant arm and shoulder muscles let me know. This last time, Sunday, I wasn't sure how/why I dropped it. I wasn't sure that I tried hard enough to keep it up. On Monday though, the familiar ache let me know that I had tried.
It's a twisted metaphor, but it's the same with me and this relationship. Every so often I think I am not trying enough and then I feel this pain. The pain of putting myself out there, and I know I tried.
In other news, I got a promotion at work. I was not expecting it, and my boss is not very communicative or expressive. I don't get along very well with her, to be frank, but we manage. But because of this dynamic, I wasn't expecting much so the promotion was certainly very welcome. I am also interviewing for a job (in the same organization) which will take me to Singapore.
I studied in Singapore many years ago, and have visited a couple of times since, so it's a familiar place. It's close to home and so easy to live in, that I'm quite looking forward to that part. The only misgivings I have are that I'm not wedded to a future in this organization, and was looking forward to starting something on my own, taking some time off etc. Though if I remember correctly, working in Singapore is not too stressful. People wrap up at a reasonable hour and have time off. The main challenge is motivation, I'll find it somewhere.
